Perfectionism (in psychology) is a personality trait characterized by a person’s striving for flawlessness and setting excessively high performance standards accompanied by overly critical self evaluations and concerns regarding others’ evaluations.
Normal perfectionism tendencies push a person towards a goal without compromising one’s self esteem. This is a healthy drive that can increase productivity as well as satisfaction along the journey to the goal. Neurotic perfectionism tendencies cause internal conflict and anxiety as unrealistic goals are set and dissatisfaction is felt when these goals are not met. This can lead to depression and low self esteem.
Perfectionists often struggle with inner peace. As they venture through life with certain expectations, it is inevitable to feel discontent as they struggle to fight this uphill battle. This inner conflict stands in the way of tranquility for themselves. Additionally these tendencies can impedes a person’s gratefulness and appreciation, making way for negativism and skepticism.
Perfectionism can be related to the person – the need to organize a home, stay in shape or climb the corporate ladder. It can also be projected on others – identifying others imperfections in their looks, behaviors and life, in general. To work towards a healthy blend of perfectionism and inner peace, we must realize the merit in doing our best to work towards a goal. There may be a better or more efficient way to do things but that doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy and appreciate things as they are. Try not to become overly attached and focused on the negative aspects of this journey. By looking at life without judgement, we can more clearly see the joy in life.
Try to catch yourself falling into the negativity of the unattainable and enjoy your life today, making the most of the journey.
“Life is a journey, not a destination.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson